Most girls, including myself, really want to find a partner in college. After all, you are young, on your own for the first time in your life, and there are loads of hot guys around. However the thing is that there are a lot of good reasons to stay single while studying instead of plunging into a relationship. Here are a couple of things to consider before starting the hunt for a boyfriend.
Relationships take time
College is a pretty busy time. You’ve got classes and assignments, sports, parties, extracurriculars. You’re starting a whole new life. There isn’t much free time remaining to spend on yourself. Having a partner would demand even more effort, dedication, and time, which can be whiled away catching up on your favorite series, exercising, or just hanging out with friends.
There’s something delicious about being free to do exactly what you want. You don’t have to think about anything, but your desires and feelings when making decisions. The independence of college allows you to figure out who you really are and what you would like your future to be like. However, in a relationship, two people have to work hard, communicate, and compromise to stay together. Is it really worth it?
When you are young, there is an almost endless string of possibilities available to you. You can move half across the world. You can join a graduate program and get a PhD. You can join an artist commune or a traveling improve group. There’s no one to forbid you. A relationship does not exactly limit those possibilities, but it does make the consequences of any choice more difficult. In the end, you risk losing either the relationship or the life goal you’ve decided to pursue.
Being broke in college is almost a rite of passage. If you really want to save up the money, a relationship might not be for you. In addition to all the presents and dinners that are expected when one is a part of a couple, you’d also need to pay for movie tickets, little extra essentials, dates, etc. Unless your partner is very understanding and as frugal as you are, money has the potential of becoming a problem.
College can be very stressful, especially during midterms and finals. Can you imagine having exams and boyfriend troubles at the same time? That would make even the best of us go crazy!
Everyone should decide for themselves whether it is worth to have a relationship in college. Perhaps, you’ll meet a guy to whom the reasons above won’t apply. Alternatively, maybe you’ll meet someone special only after you graduate. Hopefully, this little list has helped you get your own thoughts in order.