Best friends are the gifts of fate. They laugh together, spend all the amazing moments of life together, celebrate holidays together, and keep together through all the tears and hardships.
Yet, despite this strong bond, every person has his or her own life. Your friends may have partners, children, and careers. So, as much as you rely on your friends, they cannot always be there when you need them. That is the reason you should take control and become your own best friend. Want to know how? Continue reading.
You definitely love your friends, in spite of all their annoying habits and knowing their faults. But how does it happen that so many people have a hard time loving themselves in the same way? Start respecting and loving yourself despite or even because of your flaws.
No matter whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, you should be able to enjoy spending time with yourself. No, this does not mean you have to stay away from people. Just learn to enjoy your own company enough to stay alone with your thoughts and feelings.
Remember all those wonderful things you say to your best friend. Remember how you support and compliment him or her. And now think how you can do the same thing for yourself. It is very important to be able to compliment yourself. This will greatly help you to become a happier person.
The way you talk to yourself is very important and has a great effect on your life.
Would you call your best friend fat after he or she ate a big meal? Would you call him or her silly or ugly? No, you would not. Yet these are some of multiple terrible things we say to ourselves every day. You would not say those disgusting things to your friends, so stop saying them to yourself. Start being kind to yourself.
Your best friend is there for you when you are facing troubles and need support. However, there are situations when your friend cannot be around or be available when you need him or her.
So, to become your own best friend, you should learn how to work through those down moments. Learn to talk to yourself the way your friend would do that.
When our loved ones tell us they believe in us it is a wonderful feeling. Our self-esteem rises and we feel much more confident and motivated.
Try to remember when was the last time you told to yourself “I am proud of you,” “I love you” and actually meant it. If you cannot remember the last time you did this, you should become more proud of yourself and start saying it from time to time.
Friendship is great, but even such a great thing sometimes comes with challenges particularly when people are struggling with such feelings as jealousy or envy. Even the best friends sometimes compare and copy each other. Envy and jealousy can ruin even the best relationships.
So love your friends, but do not copy them. Appreciate your uniqueness and individuality.